Difference Between Love and Submission?
Frequently Asked Question
There are a number of questions that I answer routinely on an individual basis that are probably worthy of posting in a more accessible location for all who are curious. Here are links to some common follower questions and answers. Also be sure to go to "The Reading Room" on this blog for a full list of the fiction and non-fiction original posts by the author.
WHERE TO BEGIN
We’ve never done this before, where do we start?
I am new, don’t want to sound like a wannabe but where do I begin?
D/s books for beginners and experienced alike
How can I tell if I am a Dom or a sub?
Can you be a Dom some times and a submissive at others?
What is the difference between a Dom and an abusive partner?
Is there really strength in submission?
What is The Submissive Bill of Rights?
Can you be a sub to someone who lives far away?
Can I “give myself” to someone I hardly know?
I want to be a submissive, how do I find a Dom?
How do I find my “perfect” Dom?
Where can I find a “REAL” Dom?
Why does it seem that the “real” Doms are so quiet and the wannabe’s so loud?
How Can I Find Others with Similar Adult Interests to Mine?
Online D/s relationships - How to have them and who to have them with
What do I do with a sub, it is her first time with a Dom?
I want to find out more about the submissive lifestyle and talk with other submissives. Where can I do this?
I long to be submissive but challenge every man who would be my Dom. Are these the actions of an impossible sub?
I want to be submissive but do not look like all the svelte women I see in images on Tumblr. Can I be a beautiful submissive to a Dom?
I have been talking with a Dom online and now want to meet him. What is the protocol?
I know why I need a Dom, but why does a Dom need a submissive?
Do Doms feel the same sort of dependency that Subs do?
I am really interested in BDSM but so embarrassed about liking it. How do I talk about this with my partner without freezing up?
How can I get my partner interested in D/s or BDSM?
I want my partner to be more Dominant with me, what do I do?
I like being submissive in the bedroom but not elsewhere in life. Am I a real submissive of a fake?
How can I shift D/s from the bedroom to elsewhere in life with my partner?
Does being Dominant or submissive start an an early age?
Can people under the age of 18 seriously engage in D/s relationships?
Q&A - Is There A Difference Between Love and Submission?
As a new Dom, how do I strike the right balance of control and care?
How do D/s relationships coexist with real life in the real world?
How do I balance D/s with distance and separate lives?
What are some elements of a healthy long-distance D/s relationship?
How do I separate the bond with a Dom from emotions of love and attachment?
I have this new D/s relationship but now cannot think about anything else. Is it normal to be so distracted?
What is the difference between D/s and M/s?
What is the difference between a submissive and a slave?
What is it like being in a 24/7 D/s relationship?
Are submission and masochism synonymous?
Sometimes I like D/s and sometimes it makes me feel badly. Why?
I love him but why does he want to hurt me so much?
My Dom wants more extreme play than I am comfortable with…
Is it OK not to want to be punished by a Dom?
My “slave” keeps challenging my authority…what do I do?
What if your sub does something silly, would you punish them?
How do you tell a Dom/Mistress that they have made a mistake?
Does being a submissive male to a female Mistress draw one’s sexual orientation into question?
My Dom/Domme lost control and hurt me and now is afraid…what do I do?
My Dom does not listen to or respect my hard limits, needs and wants…
What should a submissive do if her Dom punishes her for using her safe word?
How do I transition back to a vanilla relationship with a Dom who cannot handle the responsibility?
I broke up with my Dom/sub. Is it normal to feel lost?
Where can I find a pre-scene questionnaire?
What is so appealing about a spanking?
Is it possible for a love for spanking to turn into a love for BDSM?
Doms seem to love orgasm control yet I get so close but cannot break over the edge. Does the affect my ability to be a sub?
How do I physically treat redness, soreness and welts?
Where can I read more about aftercare?
Is it possible to experience sub drop without going into sub space?
Can sub drop be felt in online relationships as well as in person?
My Master wants to reward me, what do I ask for?
I read your story about the use of ice, is it safe?
Will S&M ever be accepted in the mainstream?
Top 10 Signs You Are Too Old for BDSM (tongue in cheek)
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Why does FTLOAS write in a gender specific manner?
What is your favorite part of being in a D/s relationship?
What are your guidelines for conducting a D/s relationship?
What are your hard limits? What are things you will not do to a girl?
Why is face slapping a hard limit of yours?
Have you ever hurt your partner in a BDSM session?
Do you also have “normal” sex in a D/s relationship?
Are you and your Muse always in a D/s relationship or is there more?
What is the age difference between you and your Muse?
Are there other blogs that focus on the emotional side of BDSM without all the cruelty?